“YTA. No, they don`t have the name. It doesn`t mean they`re wrong, that you should think again if you`ve known clearly for years that it`s special to them,” one person wrote. Especially when the mere fact that you have this argument creates a gaping hole in your “pretty unique” reason for choosing, and you don`t seem to have anything particularly useful to counter it. “[My husband] didn`t even have the decency to tell me! He just made me believe for two months that our son`s middle name was written `Finley` when it`s not legal,” the mother shares. Although Hedda Garbled thought, “In these particular circumstances, I would say it was unnecessarily provocative to use her brother`s name.” Dear Angry: Every time your mother-in-law successfully teases you, she lights a little spark inside you. Then you`ve oxygenated the spark by reacting to them — or fighting with your husband — and before you know it, you`re on fire (and you`ve had their day). “The second name of choice is Rafferty (which DH thinks is silly). Uncle pronounces it “Rafe-el” and we will pronounce it “Raff-aye-el”, so I think it`s actually quite a different name, but whatever! Rafferty is – DH will have to soak it up and he will be Rafe or Raffi anyway,” she added. While the mother did not specify where she lives, the 2020 name census website shows that Liam was the most popular boy`s name. Discover the meaning of our favorite royal baby names from around the world. Now I`m pregnant, and the only thing I hear from her is how we should call our son the last name “Bernie” (he would be the fourth).
Another Reddit user suggested that this mother-to-be was “deliberately cruel,” adding that she “really twisted the knife by making a tasteless comment about how he could only hope for a healthy baby.” And one user summed it up perfectly: “YTA. Congratulations. They found the only exception to the “you don`t have a name” rule and broke it. Dear Amy: I suggest that the mother-to-be realize that her problem is not with her stepmother, but with her husband, who does not stand up to his mother when she converts. A pregnant woman decided to choose her brother-in-law`s baby name, and it`s a heartbreaking decision. She took to Reddit to break things down, explaining that her brother-in-law and wife were expecting a baby three years ago and chose a name from the woman`s favorite ballet. Very sadly, her child passed away. While clarifying: “We can`t do Rafe because our last name starts with an F and the two together do NOT sound good (totally clogged).
As any expectant parent will tell you, choosing a baby name is both fun and frustrating and often a decision made after several weeks of careful consideration. When the mother and her husband finally agreed on a middle name, Finley, it was under the agreement that it would be spelled exactly like that. When the mother came across legal documents spelling the name with an “a” at the end, she was furious. Her husband suggested “Caleb,” but she wasn`t on board. And after settling for the alternative options, she changed her mind again after realizing that “DS2`s name ends with an `el`, for example Daniel. Does this mean that he collided with Raphael? The unnamed woman posted her dilemma on Mumsnet under the username Justheretoaskaquestion91 and revealed that she was expecting another boy. As they say, misery loves company. Hear more horror stories of mother-in-law of women who also weathered the storm. It`s a tricky situation and, of course, it all comes back to the woman`s mother-in-law. MIL reportedly initially tried to persuade her son to change the baby`s name, but when that didn`t work, she opted for the spelling of the middle name.
Their reasoning? She thought it was more masculine to write it as “Finlay.” The name Raphael was listed at number 514, Caleb was very popular at number 56, while Rafferty was not in the top 1,000. The mother of two added: “I don`t want to be a D*** and I don`t want to go to war about it, but I`m also kind of like the baby will be known by a nickname anyway, it`s just for a nice formal name, and does she really have the right to do it?! I wouldn`t mind if she had always been loving and supportive. My husband`s brother had a nickname that translated as “egg.” One day, while my daughter was playing with her uncle, I said to my father-in-law, “Oh look, isn`t it nice to see Ham and Egg playing together!” No more “ham”. Yes! Baby names and mothers-in-law can be stressful topics in themselves, but together they are a force to be reckoned with. She posted her dilemma on the website, saying, “I`m pregnant with #3. Used all the baby names we like for boys on the first 2 (usually [emoji]). There`s one name I absolutely love, but it`s DH`s uncle`s name. She later explained that the name she had put her heart on – which also belonged to her uncle – was Raphael. Reddit came together collectively to let this mom-to-be know that she`s completely wrong here. Usually, calling dibs on names can be nebulous – but in this case, it`s just hurtful to take your baby BIL`s name. DEAR AMY: I was amused by a letter from a pregnant woman whose mother-in-law insisted on calling her baby “Skipper,” regardless of the child`s real name.
Dear Amy, I am a companion of suffering of a “monster in in-laws”. I realized that since I can`t change my mother-in-law, I might as well find humor with my situation. Dear Amy: I had a similar situation with my father-in-law. He absolutely refused to call my daughter by the beautiful name my husband and I had chosen, and instead invented a European nickname that, if abbreviated, would mean “ham.” Now, this Reddit user and her husband want to use that name for their firstborn. “We were at a family event this weekend and I mentioned we had that name in mind,” she wrote. “BIL looked a bit surprised and said that was the name they had chosen for their daughter. My husband said we knew that, but we just thought it was a very nice name. Dear relief: A little nickname, and these two were crammed together for life! [September 2012] While Aderyn21 simply said, “I would use the name I liked.” Hopefully, the mother and her husband can solve the problem between the two, and the son will never allow his mother to make such an important decision about her baby without first consulting both parents. If she wants to call your baby “Skipper,” you can say, “You can call the baby whatever you want, even if it can be uncomfortable if that`s not her name.” I had a similar problem with a cross-border mother-in-law that almost cost me my marriage until my husband realized by advising that his mother was his problem, not mine. A new mother was shocked to discover that her mother-in-law had changed the spelling of her baby`s name behind her back.
The anonymous woman wrote to Care and Feeding, a Slate.com advice column, to share how the shocking revelation surfaced.